Half-full, half-empty.

They often say that situations in which we find ourselves can either make us or break us.
This is true and it took my stubborn self to come to terms with that.
Don’t get me wrong,
I can sometimes be stubborn,
But I am still the sweetest person you’ll ever meet. 😎
Even though some bad belle individuals in conjunction with people of the world will try to make you think otherwise. 😉
One day, you’ll get to read about me.
Then, you can be the judge.

 

Imagine a very beautiful and sunny day- not the kind of sun that shines on the streets of Nigeria, that will always assume you’re some sort of barbecue and just continue to grill your skin.
Maybe going on a date or something just to make the day great.
You are filled with so much excitement and already imagining how the event will turn out.
You turn on the car stereo to listen to some cool music.
The views look different, even though it is the same road you’ve plied countless times.
You even smiled at the Police.
This rarely happens, but studies have shown that you automatically get a fair playing ground when you smile at Nigerian Police officers.
Please don’t quote me.
I don’t know who did the studies.
I don’t even know if there was a study at all.
It could have been a mere cruise

 

The traffic light goes RED, you stop, and you tap on the steering wheel, singing along to the music from the stereo.
The light turns amber… then GREEN.
Time to move.
And the sweet Google Maps voice says, “After eight hundred metres, take the right turn, and your destination will be on the left“.
You’re feeling excited when suddenly, someone from another car calls out to you…

 

“you’ve got a flat tyre.”

 

That announcement can change everything.
You just have to stop and think of a solution.
You can either attempt to fix that problem by yourself if you have a functioning spare tyre
Or, if you are lucky, there could be a vulcaniser around the corner.

 

Here is a reality,
Ladies may not need to stress much before someone stops to help
Again, don’t get me wrong.
I have seen a lot of ladies change car tyres themselves, and they did pretty well.
And before the feminists start getting their titties hard over this, I should state here that this has nothing to do with gender privileges.

 

When you have a flat tyre, you have a decision to make there and fast too.
You either allow the situation to ruin your day or you just look for the next option and move.
You either become the glass-half-full or the glass-half-empty guy.
Whichever you settle for, will be significantly influenced by your level of patience.

 

I was once caught in a decision quandary.

A friend came to me with a piece of exciting news.
Apparently, she got a positive response she’s been waiting on for a long time.
I took my time to read through the attached terms and conditions and some things didn’t feel right- they felt like traps.
She’s been very excited and she\’s been passing the good news around.
I didn’t know how to burst her bubble and be realistic with her.
Should I tell her immediately or just let her enjoy the moment?
It is a dilemma because I have had friends call me ‘buzzkill’ for being realistic.
And even though these things don’t usually get to me, over time, I have learnt to mind my business, while drinking a lot of water.

 

That aqua therapy works. You should try it.

 

But this time, there was no water in sight.
So I replaced water with air.
Took in loads of it, got hyperinflated and I told her how I felt about the news.
I think I must have killed her joy instantly because what I got was, “Why are you always like this?”

 

Weeks later, it turned out I was right after all.
But our relationship already got strained.
I wish she were more patient with me.
And even though I always want to be a true friend,
I also hate to be the bearer of bad news.
I guess we can’t always have it smooth.

 

What would you do?

 

Do you face life as a realist, or do you deal with life as an Idealist?
As for me, I go with the former- REALIST.
That way, I can maximise my expectations and minimise disappointments.
It all depends on how you choose to see life.

 

That you’ve-got-a-flat-tyre situation shouldn’t ruin it all for you.
Just step out of the situation and if you\’re my friend, we can fix it together.
You can choose happiness when everything is going south, and this is not the same as suffering and smiling.
You can choose love and light because love is beautiful and light is bright,
Even though we sometimes prefer to make love in the dark. 😍

 

But what do I know?

I just want the love of my life to live through this life with me while turning lemons into lemonade.

 

 

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